Uncovering Our Judge

Have you ever had a moment where you were extremely hard on yourself, someone else, or potentially even the circumstance in which you were in? Me too friend! That is a part of human nature. However, that harsh judge mentality can impact our ability to grow, support our relationships, and take the learning from what life throws at us.

I am in a 7 week training course through Positive Intelligence currently. This course is designed for professionals and business owners that operate as a “coach” in some capacity to help them dive in and understand the psychology of how our brain is hard wired to judge and sabotage based on our experiences and upbringing but also tangible, simple strategies to help rewire and improve the positive part of our brain. I have been so excited for this course to start and as it wraps up in mid September you better believe that information will continued to be shared, new offerings will be coming, and my work with clients will be forever transformed for the better.

Part of the basis of Positive Intelligence is understanding our saboteurs, or the thought patterns and negative emotions that negatively impact our ability to connect with others and succeed. There are 10 different saboteurs but everyone has the judge and then a secondary saboteur. So what does the judge do? Well as the name implies, judges… judges self, judges others, and judges circumstances. The judge is very focused on criticisms, comparisons, and bringing in more negative emotions like guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, or stress. Now, when was the last time that you judged yourself, your circumstances, or others a little more harshly then you should? I know I am guilty of that, especially when it comes to judging myself. How quickly are we to criticize ourselves or others?

Many of these patterns are set within us at a young age and continue to evolve as we get older. However, we are capable of change. The first step when you sense your “judge” coming out is to identify it. You are allowed to call it out. When you identify it, our brain goes off of autopilot and change starts slowly happening because when you identify a thought or pattern that is not what you want, it is easier to be able to change it. Positive Intelligence teaches small 10 second increments to be able to help us identify, reground, and improve. Y’all I am totally nerding out over this stuff and am so excited to keep sharing more! Until next time! Identify your judge and make those small little changes, it is worth it to be more connected to ourselves and others.

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