Do you believe that everything that happens does for a reason or that a blessing can come from it?

I want you to think for a moment of the most painful thing you have ever endured… sit in it for a second and really allow your body to feel the emotion… How does reliving that moment or thinking about that moment make you feel?

For me one of the most painful things that I ever experienced was my parents’ divorce. They both are very open nowadays about why their marriage failed, ways they went wrong in the proceedings of the divorce and the custody battle, and why it was the right thing to do. BUT in the moment, my world was ending, I was grieving, and did not see how things were going to get better.

Often times when trials or struggles happen, in the moment it may feel hopeless, it will hurt, and we often are not sure what things will look like moving forward. When you are going through tough times it may also be hard to look at things from the lens of “it’s going to get better from here” or “everything happens for a reason”. How many of you have ever been going through something hard and had a well-intentioned friend or family member say that and your initial reaction was to smack them? Yeah I feel ya! That is often not how we feel in the moment. However, when the pain starts to subside and we truly look back, how many trials or hard times have actually been a blessing?

I think back to my parents’ divorce and honestly it has taught me so many things. I saw first hand what lack of communication brought forth and that has helped me in structuring my communication with my husband. Going through this helps me have empathy for others experiencing or who have experienced extreme family strife. It also brought me into the career field that I went into. The divorce brought my family to Texas where I grew up, met many of my lifelong friends, met my husband, and on and on and on. How many of you can relate? That your darkest moments often bring the biggest blessings?

This week as I was going through my content for the Positive Intelligence course that I am wrapping up, this was the concept and adaptable skill that was discussed. Every situation in life there are three ways to react 1) accept what has happened and remove negative connotations of it since you cannot change the past (not necessarily celebrate pain but accept it has happened) 2) find the blessing or learning (often not able to do in the moment of the pain but after the fact) 3) allow our judge saboteur to rule and drag us further into darkness by placing blame

We cannot control what happens to us in life but we can control how we react and what choices we make after a situation happens. How are you going to chose to see what life throws you? As a blessing or a curse?

When you know better you can do better!

What’s new and ways to connect with me!

1. A little over a week left until our amazing managing change workshop! Come for treats, raffles, hands on learning, and tangible tools. I know it will be a good time! Register with the QR code below or at: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSePtOc7no904Awb9hOFuClkAE2B4Tz5dFIjTC5ZFjbrKhX1CA/viewform?usp=sf_link

2. We at Alo Civitas have a new staff member Keyshla who is going to help make what we offer even more amazing! Find out more about her at: https://alocivitas.com/about-us/

3. Lastly, I am offering 5 exclusive spots for a voxer day that can be used on select days in September where you will have access to me on voxer for that day to ask questions, process through ideas, strategize, create, plan, grant work, identify/talk through your saboteurs/sages and whatever else I can do to help you thrive personally or professionally! To learn more details and snag your spot reply with “I’M IN FOR VOXER”. Again this is time sensitive and limited to only 5 of you lucky people!